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Developing Resilience

Ideally, we all strive for the ‘Good Life’ don’t we?

So, what makes for a ‘Good Life’, what does that look like?

Greek Philosopher Aristotle, 350BC defined it this way:

‘Good birth, plenty of friends, wealth, good children, a happy old age, and also such bodily excellences as health, beauty, strength, large stature, athletic powers, together with fame, honour, good luck and excellence.’ (Aristotle, 350BC)

That all sound great, doesn’t it? and, yes, these are things are certainly things to strive for, however life isn’t always like that, is it? Life is a series of UPS and DOWNS.

How we navigate our way through life successfully is all about developing resilience.

Definitions of resilience

Resilience is broadly understood as positive adaptation in circumstances where difficulties are present.

The term resilience was introduced into the English language in the early 17th Century from the Latin verb resilire, meaning to rebound or recoil.

So, one way for you to learn about your own resilience is to ask yourself how you solved your issues or problems in the past.

Every time you come through an issue or work through a problem you are developing your own resilience, the skill is to recognise that and to trust in the fact that you have ALWAYS found a way through, trusting in the part of you that persevered, the inner strength you found, the patience you demonstrated in your waiting. This is your resilience in practice, being developed.

So, how did you solve your issues in the past?

· Did you ask for advice?

· Did you sort through the problem by yourself?

· Did you do a lot of research before deciding?

· Or did you simply dive into the problem quickly?

· Did you walk away or ignore it?

What worked well for you in the past is important to gathering your strengths and assets from your experiences in the world round you. It is also important to remember that there is not one right way application here – this is unique to each of us. What works for you may not work for your friends or your parents. It is unique to you and something you need to discover about yourself. I want to leave you with this question and I ask you to quietly answer it to yourself, maybe write down your answer. Think of one struggle that you have ‘overcome’ or another way to look at it ‘come through’ and write down what attitudes and what strengths your employed that helped you to overcome or come through, and why did they matter?